Today was a tough day. Today, April 26th 2023, was the Order of Possession trial in Mexico. I am physically and mentally exhausted.
What is an Order of Possession?
I cannot find any good websites that describe it, but basically, it’s a court order that states that one person has exclusive rights to occupy a unit/home. Tiny Trash is listed as a co-owner of the property on the private contract (explained in my Don’t Mingle Finances post), but with this court order, I am the only one who can be in possession of the condo. Meaning if he comes near the unit, does any damage, he can be taken to Mexican jail. Think of it as a USA version of an Order of Protection but for a piece of property. So as long as I’m in the condo, I am safe… but if I leave the condo, and Tiny Trash decides to harm me, its allowed because the Order of Possession ONLY protects the condo from his wrath.
I tried to obtain the USA version of an Order of Protection in Mexico, but from what I was told by my lawyer, this is nearly impossible to obtain in MX. Apparently Mexico is behind the times when it comes to protecting victims of domestic violence. Not to say that the USA has a one up – as we all know, the US version of an OOP is just a piece of paper and law enforcement doesn’t take them seriously (otherwise Forensic Files and Dateline wouldn’t have 20+ seasons each).
Why Do I Have an Order of Possession?
Well, after I discovered Tiny Trash’s double life, I broke up with him. However, all my stuff was in Mexico, as I had planned to return to MX to live with him. We agreed that I could get all my things Labor Day Weekend in September 2022. He would not give me the code to the condo until the day I was driving down – August 31st. Throughout the following days, he would remove the code and not allow me into the condo or the MX house to obtain my things. It was a game he was playing – removing my access unless I talked with him, which I would not. Days and days of this BS. After he broke into my Chandler home on September 7th (Home Invasion #1) , I knew I was not safe and hired a lawyer both in Mexico and the USA.
I began working with Rogelio, my MX attorney on seeking an order of possession, but thanks to Tiny Trash’s break-in on September 13th 2022 (2nd Break-in), it was granted almost immediately. Scariest day of my life. It took forever to serve him in Mexico, but once served, the Order of Possession went into effect. He was finally served while he was with Laura and friends at his Princesa D108 condo.
He could have left well enough alone, after all, he has contributed $0 to the condo AND he made money on my money (Don’t Mingle Finances). But nope, he appealed this order of possession. And today was his day in court to prove his case – why he should also possess and occupy the unit.
What is Mexican Court Like?
Mexican court is very interesting – in some ways it’s the same as the US court system – inefficient, behind the times, etc.. What makes it extra complex for Americans is the requirement to translate EVERYTHING. And I mean EVERYTHING.
So in the USA, when you have court, you have a judge, a court reporter, you have lawyers ask questions, witnesses give answers, etc.. Witnesses do not get to hear everyone’s testimony, they are called in when it is their turn. SAME in Mexico for the most part.
Here are the differences:
there is no judge, there is a Secretary that types into a computer the questions and answers.
there are multiple people in the room: the Secretary, the witness, the interpreter, and the lawyers.
We each were allowed 2 witnesses:
Tiny Trash picked his brother and Abe, a guy that works for him.
I had Justine, the former B509 property manager and person who helped with the original purchase of B509, and Cesar, the bodyguard that was present when Tiny Trash broke into the B509 condo
There is only one witness in the room at all times. The courtroom is a small room and there is no waiting room, so when we were not being interviewed, we stood outside or sat in our cars.
At the end of all the testimony, the lawyers and translators review the documentation.
If all looks good, the Secretary prints the documents, and everyone who participated in the day has to sign the paperwork along the borders.
Given this, it took from 11am to 5:30pm to complete all the “interviews”, prepare the documents, and have everyone sign the documents.
So What Happens Now?
The judge will get a file that is thick as thieves — evidence submitted (police reports, ring doorbell recordings, apostiled documents from the USA (my order of protection, the financial statements that show I paid 100% for the condo, all of the Chandler police reports, etc), witness statements from the court hearing today, etc.. The judge will determine the outcome. I understand he will make a decision within 3-5 days.
So, we wait.
Why was this so hard for Me?
It’s the first time I have seen him since the USA Order of Protection hearing on Nov. 9th (OOP Upheld). So the good news is he looks HORRIBLE. I can’t believe that I found him remotely attractive at any point. His beer gut, his man boobs, and now he has a short haircut that makes his head look like a special needs child that needs a helmet. Outside of his physical appearance, I finally saw him for who he really is – a conman, a self-entitled, selfish, what is yours is mine guy that has zero moral compass.
It shook me hard. It’s like a lightning bolt hit me – I was way too trusting, too nice.
I’ve been in shock since August of last year. I don’t go out, I don’t get to know people. I am alone almost 100% of the time. It has been really hard for me to come to grips with the fact that I was with someone that I thought I knew, but in the end, it was all a con:
He knowingly lied to me (he never had the money for the condo); he never intended to pay me back for his 1/2 of the condo
He took all the rental income; did not give me a penny
And now he wants to profit from my investment
I’m still shook by all of this. Since November 2022, I have basically been self isolating. I don’t trust myself, I don’t trust others, I don’t want want or need any drama in my life. I don’t go out. I work from home… I’ve gone weeks without leaving my house (thank you Door Dash!).
Right now, I’m just done. I’m done with people, with humans….. I need to find a therapist to help me through this period. Just know I’m working on it. I’ll get there. But if you do not hear from me, it’s because I am trying to figure things out and heal myself.
Lessons Learned
Same lessons I speak of all my previous posts – don’t trust anyone:
Always do a background check before dating anyone.
Speak to the ex prior to engaging in the new relationship
Never co-mingle money
Please pass / forward this blog onto other women who may be going through the same thing. The more we ladies a) stick together, and b) learn from each other, the less havoc these conmen will wreak in our lives.
I’m going to bed now. Going to have a good cry, hug my new cat Josie, and hope that I can sleep as I have a shit-ton of work to do tomorrow.
WARNING – This is a very long post…. its is a 2 day adventure through a breakup with a lying, cheating narcissist. It is written 7 month post-breakup and in a journalistic format. Only truths and receipts here. I am doing this post for my Lawyer, who has asked me to put together a timeline of “how things came to light”.
So much has come out about my “relationship” with the Ex over the last 7 months. It is clear we were in two very different relationships – I was with him because I loved and trusted him, he was in it to con me out of my money. This has been the hardest for me to come to terms with – that everything he presented to me about himself and how he felt about me was false and fraudulent. I also still feel incredibly gullible for falling for it all… but my friends remind me, over and over again, that I was actively deceived and I could not have seen it coming.
You must know, first and foremost, that we had a relationship based on trust (or so I thought). We had agreed early on in our relationship that if either of us ever wanted out of the relationship OR met someone else that we wanted to pursue, we would be forthright and tell the other person. AT 50 years old, there is no reason to spend time and energy in a relationship with someone who does NOT want to be with you. So while I was away, selling my house so we could live our lives together in Mexico like we had planned in late May 2022, I had absolutely no reason to doubt him:
a) we had this agreement,
b) we communicated daily,
c) he never mentioned his new “special friend” to me, and
d) we were still talking about our future together.
With that said, this post is long and is divided into four parts:
So here goes… get some coffee, some wine, some snacks, cause here we go!
How I came to find the truth (through his lies)
I don’t even know where to begin. So much happened in the days between August 23rd and August 26th 2022. Three days is all it took to turn my world upside down. The amount of lies and gaslighting that happened is still mind-boggling to me. He kept badgering me to talk, but I knew nothing that came out of his mouth would be the truth so I kept the entire conversation in WhatsApp. And I’m glad I did because now I have proof of his depravity and active deception.
He came over to the Chandler house on August 23rd. I had driven a trailer full of stuff down from SLC (I had, after all, just sold my house and moved to Chandler). The trailer was sitting outside in the driveway (against HOA policy) because Trash’s car was in the garage. Tiny Trash was to supposed to remove his car from the garage before I arrived so I could put the trailer in the garage, but he didn’t do it. He told me he was in MX working (which was a lie). So on August 23rd he came over around 2pm-ish, walked inside without knocking, took a call with CPS, then went into the garage to get his car out of the garage. Once the car was out, he helped me back the trailer into the garage. After we completed this, we went inside to have dinner and go to bed. After dinner he sprung it on me that he was going to stay the night with his ex-wife… which is an unbelievable story. He also mentioned that he borrowed a mutual friends car…. and he also left green drink supplements at my house. These three things got me thinking… and so I began to do some investigating in the early morning hours of August 24th 2022.
Lie #1: Staying the Night with the Ex-Wife
Its not in the phone text below, but you can see below on 8/23/22 at 9:54pm he says “call me”. He had just left the Chandler house after telling me he was going to “spend the night at his ex-wife’s house“. I didn’t believe him. I called him – he told me not to worry, that I had nothing to worry about. He loved me, but that his son was NOT doing well and needed him. I called bullshit on this story. I have confirmed with his ex-wife that he did NOT spend the night at her house. She also confirmed that she doesn’t have a couch. SO he lied bigly.
Lie #2: The Borrowed Car
As you can see above, he tells me that he borrowed his friends car. I reached out to the friend. She got back to me a day later. He absolutely did NOT borrow her car — Whatever he did, I don’t care. There should be no reason to lie about this …. unless he was hiding something. Which he was.
Lie # 3: The Green Supplement Drink
Anyone who knows Tiny Trash knows he doesn’t drink anything but alcohol or water. So anyone with half a brain knows him drinking a green smoothie is a bold faced lie. “Its a cleanse and I wanted to try it” is just so ridiculous. This was when I stopped taking his calls.
His Own Comments with Mutual Friends
So given the lies above above, I was in a state of shock, but I knew there could be no good explanation for the lies. I didn’t care what he did, how he did it, when he did it. He lied to me – more than once. And no one lies unless they have something to hide.
Because I had an asset to protect, my Princesa B509 Condo, I reach out to a friend to see if she would take over managing my Princesa B509 Condo (see how he is attempting to steal my Condo here) . She let me know that Tiny Trash had let her and her husband know that we had broken up and she was sorry to hear it. I said it was news to me and asked if she would be willing to take back over managing the condo. She said yes… Then I asked her what Tiny Trash had shared with her while I was away… Boy, it was a doozy. Other friends came forward to share… and what came to light was:
Trash had told folks in my friend circle that we had broken up.
Tiny Trash was with Laura at a bar, and when my friend approached him to say hi and ask him how I was doing. Trash told my friend that he didn’t know, that I was “three girlfriends ago”.
Another friend spotted him at a table for two at our “special place”, Pane e Vino, the very same place we had our 90 day review/conversation at the end of May. We discussed how hard it had been with his son living with us, but that HE still wanted to move forward together. We agreed on the next steps in our relationship (sell my SLC house, purchase property in MX and build a house, take the RV for a month long RV trip), etc..
So basically, while I was away, following through on our agreed upon plan, Tiny Trash found himself a new girlfriend. I was devastated…. I was in shocked to my very core. I was numb. I had yet to wrap my head around what I had just done – sold my personal residence in Salt Lake City Utah, packed up myself, my cats, and HIS DOG and traveled by myself from SLC to Chandler with a car and a trailer. I gave up a good life, a beautiful home, moved to a place where I knew NO ONE except for him, only to find out that the person I did all this for was a man-child who had zero integrity or moral compass, who purposely and actively deceived me for the entirety of our relationship.
His Denial and Gaslighting all via WhatsApp messages
So I moved off of text and onto Whatsapp for all communication starting August 24th 2022. I would not speak to him. I did not trust anything that came out of his mouth, I wanted everything in writing. And I’m glad I did that, and I would HIGHLY recommend you do the same thing, especially if you are dealing with a liar, cheater, manipulator, and/or a violet person.
WORDS OF WISDOM: If you ever find ourself in this position, NEVER take his calls. Narcissists and master manipulators are very good at gaslighting you into thinking that you are crazy. DO NOT TALK TO THEM while you are vulnerable. Let them explain themselves in text and take your time with your responses. Use your brain, not your heart.
Here is the exchange between us, with commentary, from August 24th – 26th 2022. Tiny Trash is on the left in Grey, I am on the right, in Green. These are the exchanges, what you must know was that I was in complete shock; my body was shut down, my mind was numb… I was so hurt, just devastated… and to feel this way and continue to hear him lie, over and over again was so traumatic.
So yes, once I found out he had a whole ass girlfriend, I removed him from all my accounts (credit cards, utilities, anything that we shared) as would anyone else in this situation. He then says its “extreme” and I’m “f*king dumb” for doing this.. Really? WHO WOULDN’T DO THIS?
You will see in the next section that this is a clear lie… Trash and Lauras Relationship status on FB changed to “In a Relationship” 14 days PRIOR to this series of lies… on August 14th 2022. HE KNEW he was lying and he just kept on going… And a special sidenote that this is the exact date, August 14th 2022, is the same day that Tiny Trash asked his ex (before me) for a blowjob AT HER HOUSE in HER Master Bedroom. The Ex cleaned her house on Aug. 13th. Trash was unhappy with the service, had her come back on the 14th, where he asked her for a blowjob in the new master bedroom. So does a cheetah change their spots? Not in my book.
So I begin asking him questions. If you do not have a new GF, then why the rumors? Because rumor has it he had been all over town with her, she stayed at the house we shared Costa Diamante Mexico, he stayed with her and her kids at the Princesa Condos, they visited “our” restaurants together… Here are the two days of WhatsApp transcripts full of his lies and gaslighting.
Umm, yeah, people can and did say different. Trash and Laura were all over Princesa the entire summer. As a matter of fact, when I got back into my B509 unit, there was viagra everywhere. I knew it was his… so he had the audacity to take her to MY CONDO…. just disgusting.
And this is where it gets ugly.. trying to get my phone number back from my cheating Ex.. and him being “indignant” that I would accuse him of cheating with a “married woman”… Here it comes peeps, strap in.
Like dude, leave me alone. I said I never wanted to see you again. Do NOT come near me, ever again! Jees. A bit of history: while Tiny Trash was in Utah helping me move from July 27th through August 2nd, he purchased a car for me, a blue 2008 Audi Q8, a tire went flat….. I wanted to purchase the car on my own, but he insisted on buying it for me. I was just trying to get the flat fixed on this car that I thought was mine.
FYI – the rim was not messed up.
I’d really like to know who he thinks is “nobody” because everybody I knew in Mexico knew about Laura… The only person that did not know was ME!! So I must be the nobody he speaks of here.
In my above comment about “last weekend”, this was the weekend of Aug. 18th-22nd when we, we being Trash, myself, and his two sons, were to be at baseball games together. I later discovered he was NOT in Mexico and instead went to the games with Laura.
And here we go about getting the “real” story about Laura. He had originally told me that he had “old friends” stay with him at our Costa Diamante house (by OUR I mean the fact that we lived there together, Trash absolutely is the sole owner wrt mortgage). From what I know know, Laura was NOT an old friend, but a very new friend, that he forgot to mention to his current girlfriend, aka ME.
I have since found out that he did post on Facebook as did Laura and her friends, but he was able to block me from seeing these photos. I have friends who began sharing these photos with me, so let’s just say, that he knew at the time I didn’t know how Facebook works, but I do now. He blocked me from seeing what he was doing, period. End of story.
Yes, let’s talk about the RV. I gave Trash $6000 to pay the RV guy. Trash did NOT give the RV guy his money. He kept it for himself. So I had to pay MORE money to get the RV back from the paint guy. Just more $$ that Trash stole from me.
Just highlighted above how he said he would never mess with my phone service. I wanted to take my phone line back, but he would not let me (wouldn’t call to approve it, wouldn’t give me the code to do it myself). And he is “that way”. Within 2 weeks he had my service shut off because I would not talk to him. You can read all about it here).
So apparently Laura and all her friends knew about me, knew he loved me, and they like me (see the “Yes all of them like u”).. . I then ask for their contact details so I can confirm this. Because in a mature relationship, if they know about me, and they are “just friends”, shouldn’t I be aware of them as well? How does anyone like me if they have never met me??!?
Seeking comment from my readers: I’d like to know how many of you would be o.k. with YOUR boyfriend entertaining a new lady friend that he has NOT told you about at a party where ALL of your friends are in attendance. Rumors are flying. He is very much enjoying himself with her. And I can guarantee you that if I showed up at a party with a new guy where all his friends were, he would go ballistic. It is the double standard of a Narcissist, or a cheater in general.
Also notice how its Justine’s fault because she was ONE of the multiple people who told me. Every one of our friends was at this party, not just Justine.
So I ask him above if he took Laura to Pane e Vino, which is our special place. He knew it was our special place, which is why I asked him. His response below is “f*&k no”…. which I know is NOT true based on the first hand account of a friend.
For whatever reason, Trash continues to blame Justine for his actions, never taking accountability for his behavior.
Please note the retaliation is real. Trash has spent his entire time since August 2022 retaliating against Justine and her friends. He has publicly threatened her and her dogs, to the point she has filed a police report, added 24/7 security to her home, and faces his retribution on a weekly if not daily basis TO THIS DAY.
The going gets good here. If his behavior is so innocent, I ask to speak to Laura…. he loses it —
NOTE: That the exchange I share in the above WhatsApp message is a text exchange between Trash and a friend stating that we (he and I) agreed to not speak for 3 weeks. Which never happened. We never agreed to this, we spoke all the time. Like I mention in my comments to him is that I wanted/needed to have deeper conversations with him but he didn’t make the time. For example, the Lehi house needed a new floor, we needed to talk about it. He wouldn’t make time for this conversation SO I MADE THE DECISION myself (which of course he didn’t agree with). I figured it out later it is because he was spending all his time with Laura.
These next sets of messages get to the heart of the matter. Where he finally admits that he is “friends” with Laura. Based on what I know now, he began a relationship with Laura in June BEFORE we left Mexico. I don’t care when they started having sex. He began a new relationship with another woman and did not tell me about it FOR MONTHS. If you can’t tell your partner about a new friendship, or you have to hide a relationship from your partner, that is cheating. Period.
FYI – that picture in the whatsApp is of Trash with Laura and her friends on Aug. 22nd which you can find below in the timeline. It’s the weekend he told me he couldn’t go to the game with me and his boys because he was in Mexico. Clearly he was not in Mexico. Just another lie.
And now its my fault – He is not the liar, I am the insecure one – umm hmmm, gaslighting at it finest.
and on and on and on… until finally he admits to seeing Laura. And you know why I think he did this? Because I reached out to Laura myself to get the truth.. Did I get it from her? No, not really. Here is what I wrote Laura on Aug 25th 2022.
And here is when he finally admits to dating Laura – on August. 26th at 4:09 in the morning.
I wrote Laura back, thanking her for her help. And that was the end of the communication with Laura. She never wrote me back. I never reached out to her again. I did have to block her after she publicly stated untruths about me. She clearly is not not a girls girl and has/had no intention of being mature about the situation she and Trash created.
From what I understand, she knew Trash had a girlfriend and she didn’t care one bit. She could not have missed it when she stayed at Costa Diamante or the Chandler house – my stuff is all over the place. She is not a girls girl, not a girl who has another woman’s back. As far as I am concerned, they deserve each other.
The Cold, Hard Facts About His Double Life
At the end of the day, after 7 months, here is the timeline I’ve pieced together of the 3 months: June – August 2022.
June 8-12th 2022: they may have met sooner, but they definitely met at the Roger Clyne Circus Mexicus from June 8-11th 2022 at Banditos concert that started June 8th 2022. I remember Tiny Trash acting weird during the concert – he kept leaving me in the VIP area while he was hanging with friends near the bands… I finally went over to see what he was up to, and he disappeared into the crowd, leaving me alone (again). Then the entire weekend, he got up in the morning telling me he had to “go to work”, only to end up at Manny’s to party. I didn’t have a car and did not have a way to join him, which was probably exactly what he wanted (just another isolation tactic). Guess who is no-where in the pictures of that weekend EVEN Though I was AT THE CONCERT?? Yep, me. So based on this post and what I’ve learned from friends, I believe he planned to be with Laura and the others.. and didn’t want me to get “in the way”…. SO this is one of the reasons I think he connected with her prior to this weekend.
June 24th 2022 – he made her an admin of his FB Keepers and Creepers group. He would not let go control unless they were “close”. He did this while he was with me in Kanab UT, on our 8 week trip to move me down to Mexico. I still had no idea this “just a friend” existed. All of a sudden, June 24th, he got a big project in MX and had to leave Kanab to head back to MX on June 25th 2022. It was a lie- he was heading back to spend the July 4th weekend with Laura. It’s all just so clear now. He lived a double life and I was the sucker for trusting him, supporting him so he could live his dream of building a business down in Mexico.
July 4th weekend – Laura and her friends stayed in our MX Costa Diamante house… not “old friends” as Trash had told me. Didn’t she and others find it strange that all my stuff was there, in the master bedroom?!! They partied all weekend together… Makes me sick to my stomach to think she rummaged through my stuff and HE allowed it.
July 2022 – He blocked off my Chandler house the entire month of July. Told me it was too Hot in MX and that he wanted to spend time with his kids…. Instead, he hosted a “Singles Party” on July 10th with Laura and a few other other ladies. Charged the entire party on my credit card (over $600 in booze and food). Laura also stayed there long enough for my address to be registered to her name. I STILL get mail for her at the house (It’s now April 2023). At this time, Trash was texting me pictures of him with his family, having dinners at my place, telling me he was going to bed early…. he made absolutely no mention that his “new friend” Laura was staying at my house OR that he was using my house to host singles parties.
August 14th 2022 – The day their FB relationship status changed to be “IN a relationship” with each other. This is 4 days BEFORE he was to meet me in Chandler to go to the Baseball game with his kids and then move to Mexico. We also had a 90 day review policy. Because of this I do not think his “in a relationship” FB status on August 14th is random. It is most likely the 90 day mark as too when they started officially “seeing each other”, however they defined it, on or near June 14th. Which makes sense to me, because that was the weekend of the Circus Mexicus from June 8-11th 2022 at Banditos that Trash was behaving strangely – The very same concert that I went to, that I worked side-by-side with him, that we attended together with our friends.
August 22nd – Tells me he is in MX working, which is why we could NOT go to the Baseball games with his sons. But really he is in town with Laura celebrating god knows what.
And the rest is history. The section above shares with you what happened on August 23rd moving forward. So yes, I I learned about Laura on August 24th/25th. But clearly there was a lot more going on behind my back prior to me discovering their affair.
Which leads me to the next section… Read on and learn from my mistakes folks.
Summary & Lessons Learned
Having had 7 months to recover from the shock of it all, look back at inconsistencies, have friends and acquaintances share tidbits of info… slowly but surely the truth came out and is what I’ve shared is all I know at this point.
Lesson learned: The truth will always come to light. The goal is to leave after the first offense/sign of disrespect because:
They most likely have been doing it over and over and over, they just got caught this time
Narc’s love to be friends with their ex’s and always have multiple FWB’s hanging around. Narcs love to keep their ex’s around as backup…. I learned this the hard way…. Trash has a lot of ex/FWB friends he hooked up with while we were together.. this is above and beyond the strangers he would find to bang AND in addition to Laura
Things can and will never be the same once trust is broken
If you have made it this far, congratulations. You have probably been through something similar and have spent a lot of time dissecting it in and effort to understand what happened and move on.
Final Words of Wisdom
IF you are in a relationship with a narcissist, master manipulator, gaslighter, liar, and/or cheater: get out the first time they show you who they are. If you do not they will hurt you over and over again… It took me finding out about this one girl to leave. But since I’ve been out of the relationship, I have learned that there were plenty of other women he was with besides Laura. Outside of what I’ve shared above:
He had an ongoing affair with his ex before me. Sex in my house, sex in hotel rooms, sex in Mexico, wined and dined her both in Mexico and in Arizona. You name it, they did it. He told her I was a “business transaction” and that they would get back together when he was done with me.
His truck was never in the driveway of our house in Mexico when I was away on business. He never spent the night at our house when I was not home. He was out at the bars, picking up randoms when I was out of town, taking them to his Condo or Mirador Townhouse.
Sometimes he would “work late”, but was not really working… He was actually at his condo, mere blocks away, using the owners hot tub and his condo as a “f*&k pad” while I was AT HOME TAKING CARE OF HIS SON.
There are his FWB gals that he hooks up with – he had 2-3 that I am now aware of.
Lastly, there are all the vulnerable women he preys upon in his FB Groups. He loves single women going through tough divorces… so he can swoop in and look like a hero. But in reality he is just a predator stroking his ego at someone else’s expense.
So let this be a lesson to you all that the best course of action is to BE DONE the first time you find out your partner/significant other has strayed – because you can be guaranteed that you did NOT catch him the first time.
When you find out something that breaks a boundary. Leave. It WILL NEVER GET BETTER. And once you leave, you will discover a lot more, and from what I’ve learned from the experts, what you actually learn about is only 10% of what truly went on. So if the above is only 10%…. I can only imagine what else will come to light during the civil suit discovery and trial.
On January 31st, 2023, I received a call from Bank of America. Trash had wire transferred money into my account from his Wells Fargo account and it was flagged as fraudulent. Bank of America was calling me to get my approval to return the funds. Of course I said yes. The agent that called me did not have details on why the transfer was marked as fraud, and gave me the Bank Of America business account fraud department number (1–800–729–9437 option 2,3,3)to call to get more details. Case # BML 230130–003835.
So today, Feb. 3rd 2023, I called Bank of America Business checking Fraud department to get more details about the wire fraud.
Here is the timeline:
1/19/23 — Trash wire transferred $3500 from his Wells Fargo account to my BofA business checking account. Here are the details from my Bank of America statement:
1/30/23 — Trash then called his bank (Wells Fargo) and reported the transaction that HE INITIATED as fraud. Bank of America has the following note from Wells Fargo (the remitter): “Please return payment per fraud”.
1/31/23 — My bank, Bank of America, called me and told me the transfer had been flagged as fraud and was seeking my approval to return funds. Of course I gave permission and the funds were returned the very same day. Here are the details from my Bank of America statement:
What in the sand hill is going on? Why would he do this? And what is the significance of the dates January 19th and 30th 2023? Was he trying to hide money? Was he trying to set me up as perpetuating wire fraud? As far as I know he has not reported this to the police, no officer has called me from Gilbert Police to seek an explanation.
But for now, be very very very aware that retaliation is real — they will do whatever the can to hurt you. I have reported this incident to my Lawyer as well as the Chandler police, police report # 23–13964.
If anyone has been through this and can explain the significance of doing this, please comment. I just have no idea why someone would do this 5 months post-breakup.
Lots of thoughts going on in my brain… I’m struggling a bit these days… here is why.
Dating. Feeling Foolish. I just found out from a very reliable source that Italian Stallion was indeed dating others. I feel foolish for trusting him. Makes me feel gullible. Now I get why we never went out in public.. why he broke up with me when and how he did.. as I hear more about him and his antics, I realize that I was foolish and naive. Bums me out. Not that I’m upset that we are not together, I’m upset that people are no longer trust-worthy. They don’t deserve trust or the benefit of the doubt. My heart tells me that people are innocent until proven guilty. But this is just not reality – I have to assume that people are guilty until proven innocent. It’s so opposite of my personality… Makes me want to crawl into my own space and not deal with people.
Dating. ATrain. Went to the Bahamas with ATrain (more on this soon) and he suggested that we get back together. Damn straight I’m a great partner. I’m angry and frustrated that he didn’t see it before…. Can I get over the fact that he didn’t see it when we were together? Can I really start over fresh with him? It really doesn’t help that he is pouring it on thick while I’m dealing with my Italian Stallion experience (above). There are things I want, things that I shared with him, all have to do with feeling secure and stable:
Living space. I want to live with my partner. For us, we would need at least a 3/2 and some significant change (i.e. ATrain puts everything on the countertops.. a messy countertop drives me insane… insane I tell you. I cannot focus if there is shit on the counter.).
Security. We either get married or I have that same security through documentation. I don’t want to worry about where my next meal is coming from.
Status. he needs to be divorced. No more excuses.
But when I think about it, really think about it, there are a few things that I want that I have not admitted to or shared out loud. If I’m going to have it all, here is what I would add to the list:
Child. I want one. Doesn’t have to be a baby.. but a child. That I can raise. It is not about giving birth, it is about having an experience and a positive impact in this world. But is this even reasonable? I am almost 45…and I do love my sleep. I want this, but only if I have a great partner. Doing it alone is not for me.
Work Part Time. Especially important if I have a kid. I do not want to deal with unrealistic expectations and unreasonable hours.
Freedom. I want a partner for life. But I also want the freedom to experience others once in a while. I’m not sure that monogamy is possible… so many cheaters.. why be a cheater when you can be honest and up front with a partner? Is this possible – to make an agreement that is amenable to both parties re: sexual liaisons?
I know. These others are very big deals and difficult to discuss… I am not sure how important they are to me until I meet a partner that is worthy of having this discussion with.
Work. New Adventure. So I found a new job. I signed the employment agreement last week. I officially start in June but will be doing some work prior to starting. Ever since this happened, I am experiencing anxiety. I did so much due diligence on the company and the leadership team, I cannot imagine that this is why the anxiety has kicked in. I think that my last job really had a negative impact on me. I’m lucky I have a few months to get over whatever is going on….
Family. As you all know my family has been through a lot in the last 6 months. Things are smoothing out… AbFab is speaking with her mother again, the girls have seen their Grandma again… My twin is doing very well. The cats are healthy for now.. My parents are my parents – retired and loving it.
Not sure what else there is to share… I’m exhausted and need to go to bed. Please share your journey and/or thoughts.
What I’m about to share it true. It happened to me this morning at 10am PST.
In a previous post, I shared how a recent relationship ended. Today I had coffee with the Italian Stallion so there are a few more details to share.
First, I wanted to meet with him because I had a suspicion that he wasn’t being fully truthful and it was bothering me. I also wanted to learn from this experience. At the end of the day, I do want a long-term partner at some point in my life.
Second, I forgot to mention, which a friend tells me it was a huge miss, that Italian LOVED to talk about how much $$ he has… How he takes care of people with his money (his kids, ex-wife, lovers, hotel staff, friends, strangers, etc..). How I would never have to worry about money if we got together… Anyway, a great example, his car collection. I do not care about cars.. At all. All I care is that it gets me from point A to point B without incident. I don’t care if it’s a 1979 Datsun or a 2016 Tesla. Anyway, Italian Stallion would talk about his cars… He has 2 cars and 2 trucks. One of his cars is a Ferrari or Maserati… He drove it (like a maniac I might had) on our 2nd date. Parking was difficult so he parked it in a no parking zone. I told him we had time to find a legal spot and that I didn’t mind walking.. He said “if I can afford this car, I can afford the ticket or the tow. Now let’s go.”
Ok. Back to today. I meet him at Peet’s Coffee. He walks in while I’m ordering a coffee… He comes over to me, has a huge smile on his face which was cute and disarming, leans over and kisses me on the cheek. I offer to buy him a cup of java and he accepts. We get our coffee and sit down. I thanked him for meeting with me…. I then told him I wasn’t upset or angry but I wanted to have an adult conversation about our relationship and breakup.
My first question for him had to do with his method of breakup – Why did he decide to break up with me over text? I told him that I thought he had more integrity/class than that so his method of text surprised me. I suggested that he easily could have called me to discuss on Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, or even Wednesday. He did NOT answer the question. He reiterated to me that I have been gone too much over these last 3 months and that he has spent far too much of this time “waiting” for me and that he doesn’t need to be waiting around for me when others are “aggressively pursuing him”.
My second question for him was about his level of interest – I just didn’t see or feel that he was in it to win it. I responded accordingly. I gave him 3-4 examples that stood out to me:
Drugs, and Dancing. In the first month of our relationship he went to Mexico for 5 days with a friend and ended up spending the entire time with a group of girls, which he bought coke for. They danced and drank together for 5 days. He was so wrecked when he got home he needed 3 days to “dry out” before he was back to normal. My point to him was two-fold: 1) would he be happy if I hung out with guys who bought me coke and I danced with them all night every night? And 2) if I was important to him, wouldn’t he have been in better shape when he saw me? Like be excited to come home and see me and maybe cut back on the drugs and booze on the last night? Maybe? And I only know all of this because he told me. I did not ask, he shared all of this freely, and not just with me, but with my friends as well.
My Family. the fact he never asked about my cats, who we all know are my fur babies. Not once. Why Ab Fab is so important to me?
My Career. The fact he never wanted to understand or talk about why I am on a 6 month hiatus from work?
Friends. He met mine… Why did we not go out with his friends? He spent a lot of time with “his buddies”… And I never met a one. Is the term “buddies” mean that he has another date?
I admit that while these things were occurring I DID NOT say anything. I just shrugged my shoulders and accepted it… Again, it’s because I didn’t think he was serious, I wasn’t serious, so none of these things really matter if the relationship is not long-term.
I did tell him I thought the breakup was ironic given that I’m around the entire month of April AND most of May AND I go back to work and have a regular schedule in June…. He started in with “it’s timing” and “I was gone too much” … Yada yada… I did not tell him that the breakup seemed pre-mature at best, and potentially an excuse for another reason.
At the end of the day, he never really answered any of my questions, but my theory is that he had a date last Saturday night and things went well. My guess is that he would never have called/texted me again IF I hadn’t reached out. Which doesn’t bode well for his character.. But I would say this is more the norm. Remember Mr. Showtime back in 2011 here and here?
But the story gets better.
As we were talking, we were laughing, joking, having a good time. We do get along well. He is a fun guy-life of the party, center of attention. He then told me that I have beautiful eyes and a contagious smile and that I light up any room I walk into (I know, super sweet). THEN he says that when he watches me smile and laugh he gets hard. Then he asked me IF I WANTED TO TOUCH IT. I know. Wait, there is more. He then reached out, touched my hand, and …… asked me if I wanted to go to his house and fool around.
Yep, just let that sink in for a minute. This happened in a flash at a Peet’s Coffee.
I light-heartedly told him “not now”… There is not a chance in hell that I’m going to ever have sex with him (see reasons why here), but IMO mens ego’s are less bruised when they hear “not now” vs. “no”.
You would think that is enough.. but wait, there is more! He then proceeds to tell me that he wants to be friends, he would still like to do things together because I’m a cool and fun girl, and:
That we should stay friends because I’ve never met anyone like him.. (which is true)
How lucky I am that he is so vocal in bed – because it shows that he is having a great time and it’s a complement to how good we are together.
And he would be open and available for me to come over to his house and fuck him anytime.
I know. A person like this does exist on this planet. I have seen it for my own eyes. At the end of the day, I will continue to be his friend (we have a lot of mutual acquaintances). He is a fun guy. My gut feeling is that I won’t see him again… He isn’t going to reach out to me ever again, and I have zero plans to check in with him. It was as smooth a breakup as you can have. All egos in-tack, no one damaged or worse from the experience.
And there you have it folks, the end of a romantic relationship.
I met a guy in early January. We dated. We moved to the friend zone this morning. Here is what transpired.
I met “Italian Stallion” online.. He didn’t want people to know that so we say we met at Trader Joes. We meet for drinks – we click. He wines and dines me 2 more times.. He says he wants to take it to the next level. What he means is he wants to have sex. I’m not ready, but hey, a girl needs some real action every now and then so I opted in.
CAUTION: The next few paragraphs contain slightly graphic sexual content. Yes, I am including the juicy bits. You are welcome.
We continued to see each other casually. We went out a few times a week when I was in town*. *=take note of this, it will come into play in the very near future. Going out consisted of me meeting him at his house, him sticking his tongue down my throat upon entry, having sex (he couldn’t wait, that’s how he “connects”), then sitting around watching movies like an old married couple.
While in this 3 month relationship I spent a lot of time away. After all, I am “temporarily retired” and I like to do things. I spent a few weeks in Utah, went to Yoga Retreat in Mexico, spent 2 weeks in the Bahamas (more on this coming)… Italian Stallion would text/call every now and again, but certainly not consistently.
The sex was also not that great for me. Here are a few reasons why:
His penis is not that big. And this wouldn’t be a problem IF he didn’t talk about how big it was all the time. It worked, he knew what to do with it, but it wasn’t big. All I could think about when we were having sex is about all the girls he’s been with that have told him he is huge, when in fact, he is average. And who was I to burst his bubble? Hard to focus on having an orgasm when I’m thinking about the mans penis size and all the other girls who have supported his belief that he is well endowed.
He is a dirty talker. He loved to talk dirty, in public and in the bedroom. Which is fine, to each their own. But when you are having sex with someone and they use statements like “gimme that pussy” or “come to Pappa” or “Who’s your daddy” (he is 60-something so it’s kind of creepy) or “fuck that cock, yes, fuck that big cock“. Anyway, I wasn’t able to get into a rhythm because I was too busy wondering where he picked up these statements and if other women were actually turned on by this.
He has loud orgasms. As you would expect, someone who loves to talk dirty in bed is also very expressive when he orgasms. I am on the Chelsea Handler team where men should watch themselves in a mirror and ask themselves if what they see is what they want to bring into the bedroom. She does a hilarious bit about this in her Uganda Be Kidding Me standup routine (out on Netflix). You can go here and see a less dramatic version of it during an interview – http://teamcoco.com/video/chelsea-handler-sex-rules. When he was ready to “explode” he would start to scream at the top of his lungs, “NO, NO, NO…. Then more softly yell yes, yes yes “…. And a few other choice words while in the euphoric state.
In this case, between his size, his dirty talk, and the sound and fury of his orgasm, it was all just too distracting for me.
Ok. Enough of that. Here is how the breakup happened.
I returned from the Bahamas last week and wanted to see him. Actually, I didn’t really care if I saw him again but since we were dating I thought it was best if I put in some effort. So I called him on Wednesday. He didn’t have time to see me until Friday. I met him at his house, we had dinner, sex, and a movie. When I left his house on Friday he felt much better and connected again. He even texted me Saturday morning – his exact words – “It was great seeing you last night. I had a great time and I hope you did too”.
He had plans on Saturday so he said he would call me on Sunday. He didn’t call. I spent the day with my friend at the pool, asking for advice on how to break up with Italian Stallion. So many ways to do it… Some suggestions were hilarious. I’ll save this for another post too.
Anyway, I finally reached out to him Tuesday evening via text – said I hoped he had a nice weekend and that I missed him. I didn’t really miss him, but isn’t that what you say when you are dating someone? He responded by text the following – He said that things “broke” between us when I went to the Bahamas and he couldn’t get it back… And that we should date other people and just be friends.
Personally I think he had a date Saturday night and it went well… I’ve asked to meet him to discuss.. Only because I want to ask questions and get a better understanding. I never got the feeling he was serious.. I thought we were just casual and in no way did I think we were exclusive. Anyway, we are scheduled to meet this Friday for coffee. Interesting how things play out isn’t it? I got my breakup without having to be the heavy. 🙂
That my friends is what a 3 month relationship looks like. I will update this post IF I do indeed meet with Italian Stallion on Friday.
I would have written this weekend but I was tied up – with the flu, food poisoning, or some sort of stomach ailment that caused me to spend the weekend a) in fetal position, and b) the requirement to be in very close proximity to a clean and working toilet.
Maybe I had a few hallucinations, or maybe I’m just learning from my experiences, but here is where I’m at:
30 minute workouts are perfect for me. By the time I realize I’m working out, the workout is over. I could probably go 45 minutes with the same attitude.. But for now I’m signed up for three 30 minute fat blast sessions a week. I go in the mornings. I’m loving the instructor, the class, and don’t mind the 15 minute drive to a fro.
Regularity is gods gift. Too much is… well, is too much. Not enough is painful. My newfound love for daily movements is here to stay.
Being a “working stiff” isn’t a bad thing. It is hard to deal with when amongst the non-working crowd yes. I have not mastered how to gracefully make this work. I have spent the last few years feeling insecure about being a “working girl” when I was hanging with all the folks who didn’t work. Why? BECAUSE I couldn’t relate – and truth be told, I am envious. I want to spend more time reading books, napping, taking vacations, seeing the world. But I can’t. At least I cannot right now.
I’m starting to feel less envious and less bad about where I’m at. It is NOT bad. It IS what it is. I am where I am. It’s not where I would like to be, but I have 110% control of where I want to go next. So I think I may be done with my pity party and onto my next adventure, which right now is cooking Thai food. Which by the way, tastes much better when someone else is cooking it for me or tasting it with me.
As you all know, one of my new years resolutions is to stop buying things and to pay off all my debt. I AM paying off my debts like a mad woman… however, I’ve slipped. I think I’ve been torturing myself with not having the things I need, waiting for someone else to get them for me. Since ATrain broke up with me, I started thinking – I deserve nice things! I decided that I’m treating myself to the things I’ve needed to turn my cottage into a comfortable place for me to spend time. I’m going for it – making my small casa feel like home and investing in myself.
It feels good, and is what has me rethinking – I’m worth it. Although I’d love another person to help me out, I’m not looking for a “helper”, I’m looking for a partner. Someone who wants me and us to have these things. ATrain has all these things, but they are for him, not for us. And that is o.k. I’m glad he got and has these things for himself, it’s too bad I wasn’t part of it.
Anyway, I’m working hard at keeping myself busy – I’m putting my professional “business plan” in place, I’m going to my fat blaster class, and my mind is slowly coming out of the emotional cloud. I like my downtime now. It was scary at first, now its enjoyable.
And believe it or not, I’m taking lessons from my cats on how to value myself. Examples include:
Zoey – there are 3 doors into/out of the cottage – whatever door is NOT open is the one that Zoey wants to come through. And I DO IT! I get up and open the door for her. For example, the screen door next to the kitchen is open, the cat door is available to her 24-7. But Zoey will scratch at the closed front door to be let in. The front door is about 4 feet from the cat door. Yes, that is right, 4 feet. But she scratches and I open…she demands and I get up – every time.
Sophie – somehow ends up on my lap, while my laptop is on my side, on 2 pillows.. why? Because Sophie wouldn’t have it any other way. And honestly, if I didn’t give her what she wanted, she would pester me until I would lose my mind. So how did she train me to give her what she wants and I just do whatever (hurt my eyes, strain my back, etc.) to give her what she wants? She is a 9 pound cat!?!! And she is the boss.
So why am I so accommodating? Why am I not being as demanding as these two 9 pound monsters that rule my life? No idea – because I’ve never been demanding? Because I don’t know how to be? I need to learn. It’s not about being demanding, it’s about knowing what I want and not being ashamed of it.
I’d love to hear your experiences about you getting stronger, learning to demand more at home and at the office.
I went to the office today. I was so busy with meetings and follow-up that the time just flew by. I got home around 6:30pm, pet the cats and wondered around for a bit. Then sat down on the couch, finished up some work, and am now getting ready for bed. This post will be much shorter than my recent posts (don’t get so excited).
Not only am I back and committed to writing more and working through my life in this public manner, my favorite blog friends are back as well. They too have struggled over these last few years. They have been so generous to share their experiences, their struggle, their deepest fears, angst, joys with all of us. I have come to know and love these folks – and their words have given me pause, made me think, and have influenced me in very positive ways. They share their experiences with such honesty and openness, I aspire to write and share like they do. I hope you enjoy their writings as much as I do –
That Precarious Gait – She is finally back! Like me, she took a hiatus – trying to get through each day, not knowing that I related to the experiences she shared… Now is a great time to catch up with her, she just wrote a great post, catching me (and the world) up on why she has been gone for so long. She has such a great writing style – so clear, concise, impactful, and emotional without being “victim-ish”.. it’s insightful and I gets me thinking.
Four Is A Family– Love this man’s sense of humor. A Brit that lives in Virginia (or somewhere cold on the East Coast), living life and sharing his experiences on love, love lost, raising daughters (which is SO HARD), working, and trying to keep it together. He too disappeared due to overwhelming life responsibilities. But he too, is back. At the same time as me and That Precarious Gait. Lucky me.
What I realized while dealing with my own shisa, is that others are struggling too, I’m not the only one out there running into family or relationship or other issues. There are a lot of folks out there trying to figure out their path in life, working hard to learn from their experiences, and moving on, becoming better people through the process.
Anyway, it came to me today. Life is about the choices I make. And this breakup is about the choices I’ve made over the last 3 years.. or maybe even longer. It’s my responsibility to figure out why I’ve made the choices I have, to learn from them, and move on.
So here I go, sharing my journey with you. The ups and downs, the process of learning from my successes and my failures. I hope you get as much out of my experiences as I get from Precarious and FIAF.
Today was another day. A day that was better than yesterday. It is also a day that I did not go into work – I called in sick. Even though I called in sick I still have work to do – I worked a few hours and have a bit more to do tonight, but I didn’t have the energy to get myself ready or see other people. But that isn’t what this post is about, this post is about today – another day, which was better than yesterday. Not to say it was all good, it was just better than yesterday.
So I’ve only almost cried 6 times today. Not fully cried, just almost cried – you know, tears well up and you swallow them or force them to go away. I did also see ATrain – we had lunch. We went to our favorite place. We had a good time – it was so good to see him. He looks good, as always. We didn’t talk about anything important. I think we are both in a too-sensitive place right now (or at least I am). We did talk about:
his plans this week – Monday/tonight he is visiting his son, Tuesday he has an event, he is busy busy all week..
his project ending (March 3rd) and the celebrating he will do …
his new yacht trip (he just got back and has another one planned – it’s part of his 10 days a month on vacation goal and its part of the celebration, see point #1)
his pending trip to France for the Tour de France
As much as I wanted to know about his weekend, what he did/who he was with, tell him how much I missed him, I did not. I really do not want to know where he was or who he was with. So the part of “being friends” where you share everything and anything, well, I’m not there yet.
So what did I do today while I wasn’t working? Thinking. Here is what I decided today:
Time to make my place a home. Even though I don’t have the money, I’m going to splurge on a new rug, a new duvet, a new vacuum, and a new TV (mine is 25″, I want a 40″ AND one manufactured in the last 10 years). My goal this year was to not buy anything so that I could pay off my CC debt… which I can do by the end of the year IF I don’t spend. But I’m going to be in the space I’m in for another year, so I may as well make it everything I want it to be.
See a counselor. My work healthcare offers me the opportunity to see someone up to 8 times at no cost. There is so much I need to learn about myself, why not just do it?
Get physically active. I need to get moving if I’m going to lose weight. I signed up for a 6 week fat blast class. My interview for the class is this Wednesday. Yes, interview. They don’t take just anyone because they want to take pictures and use it as promotional materials. Cross your fingers for me that I get in. If not, I’ll figure something else out.
Get my carpets cleaned. Not like that you dirty minded folks! 😉 I actually have a few area rugs that need to be cleaned and stored safely. Part of me wants to get rid of them, but I’m just not ready to part with them. So I will get them cleaned and stored properly. So when I do move into a house they fit into I can make the decision then.
While I was working on not feeling sorry for myself, I thought of a few ideas that are fun, that I’d like to make happen, but are long shots:
Finally start that Cat Channel on YouTube. The one where I record Sophie and Zoey, my two crazy furry babies, edit the film, and post their antics online. Who doesn’t want another cat channel??
Start Sewing again. A year ago I bought a sewing machine and some fabric to make my own pillows. Project hasn’t started yet.. what am I waiting for right?? By “again”, I mean the last time I was in front of a sewing machine was in college, which was over 20 years ago!
Begin my modge-podge crafts. Yes, a year ago I bought modge-podge and had all these crafts I wanted to create.. I’ve got so many ideas, so many “things” socked away in storage that I want to create. So many modge-podge ideas, so little time! Once I get myself put back together, I may be blogging about DIY crafts. I know, you can’t wait can you?!?! 😉
Create more lists. I am unable to keep track of myself unless I put a list together, so why not post the lists publicly so I can know where they are?!? I know, a fabulous idea. I’ve started with a new page called My Favorites. I’ll continue to update it as I remember, see, or do things..
Paleo. I’m loving my paleo lifestyle and I plan to keep track of it here on this blog. All my Paleo favorites are listed on my new Paleo References page.
Drink more wine. Just kidding, it is not possible!! ha ha, gotcha. 🙂
I think that is it. There are two more things I want to share but I feel they deserve a log of their own..
I miss him. I know I’ve done a lot these last few years, and maybe I have been hard to track down given all my moves, but a day doesn’t go by where I wonder where My Mr. Big is and how he is doing. Is he happy? Does he wonder where I am? Does he wish things had ended differently? Does he wonder if I still think about him? For me, what we shared was the most simple and honest of all my relationships. I understood and liked his quirks. I thought he felt the same. If we had questions or were confused, we confronted them. There were no elephants in our closet (like there had been in my marriage)…
Given the way he disappeared, I don’t expect to ever see him again (bummer for me as he was a good-looking man, and laying my eyes on that piece of man candy would be awesome!). I would love to see him, if only briefly, to get a better understanding of what he was going through, what was going on in his head when he decided to move on. What was on the other end that was worth giving up what we shared? I’m not judging, I just would just like to know. I’ve got all sorts of ideas in my head, it would be nice to put the ideas to rest and know the truth, no matter what it is.
I think of “us” now, especially as I move onto yet another phase in my life. I wonder what it would be like to have him by my side. If he would support it, steer me in a different direction… I respected him, his experience, and his advice. And to some degree, wonder what it would be like to have him by my side.
If anything, I don’t understand why people who loved each other so much can’t stay in contact, be friends, be supporters, be the cheerleaders we all need in our lives. I’m not a jealous person, so I don’t get how people can choose to drop out of someone’s life … if you loved someone at one time, don’t you still love/admire those qualities about that person?
Anyway, this is a short post about missing someone who is special to me. He taught me about love, passion, and happiness, and that all of it IS possible with a partner (vs. on your own). I know how to get there on my own, but the cats meow is when you can get all of the above WITH a partner. Thank you Mr. Big. Wherever you are, I hope you are happy, smiling, and at peace with yourself. xoxo.
This is my diary of the wildlife where I live in Oxfordshire, and sometimes the places I visit. I am a 18 year old young naturalist with a passion for British wildlife, especially Badgers and Hares. I have been blogging since May 2013 and you can read my old blog posts at www.appletonwildlifediary.blogspot.co.uk
Lots of thoughts going on in my brain… I’m struggling a bit these days… here is why.
I met a guy in early January. We dated. We moved to the friend zone this morning. Here is what transpired.
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