The Ones You Want Are Aloof, The Ones You Don’t Want Are Available.

I know, I know you all know what I’m talking about.  Relationship irony.

So, my date last Saturday is perfectly nice.  He is young (he’s 42 age wise, but very inexperienced.. and sorry GGD, he doesn’t like Sushi.. or fish in general… or any other meat besides chicken…).  The way he has about him reminds me of my EX (not a good thing at all).. and the little things that I saw would begin to bug me real soon (yes, I know myself that well – as adorable as he is now… he would grate on my nerves in about 3 weeks).

But, I had another date this weekend – a brunch date on Sunday… I didn’t mention it because I didn’t think much about it… it was with a guy I’d been emailing with since April…  our schedules finally alligned and we went to brunch.  I am was so happy I followed thru, he was so interesting to me.  I was intrigued… and attracted to him.  He is older (which I loooovvvee).. he is a professional/exec type, and he’s a bit rough around the edges in the sense that he doesn’t care necessarily what others think.  Not unprofessional or offensive, just comfortable in his own skin to be his own person.  This package is yummy to me.

Anyway, the brunch date went very well, and we parted ways even though both of us didn’t want to .. I was drawn to him, he said that he didn’t want the day to end… even invited me back to his place so my bottom could keep his couch warm…(it was funnyat the time, not gross like it sounds now).   Since I could not join him and his couch we made a plan to meet today, Tuesday.

I was excited, didn’t do anything but work hard all day so I could enjoy some time with him… and guess what?  He finally texted me 30 minutes ago … told me his day was crazy and asked how I was doing.  I am still working because he didn’t call and I kept my evening open for our date!  He, however, was enjoying a “fu fu cocktail” at a local bar/pick up joint.  So, I sat at home, didn’t double book myself AND was actually looking forward to spending time with Mr. Brunch… and he was off, busy busy having Happy Hour at a meat market… .Hmmm…  I’d say his actions speak much louder than his words. Good thing I’m a pro at spotting this type of behavior now.

In the meantime, Mr. Ex Look-Alike emailed me and asked me out again!  Thank god Im busy this weekend (I really have a hard time lying to guys who are interested).

And of course, Chicken Legs wants to get together this week.  I forgot to tell you’all that I finally broke up with him.. not that we were ever going out, but I said, once again,  VERY CLEARLY that I’m not interested in dating him.  Friends only or nothing.  He said he got it…..  but he has just let me know he will be in my neck of the woods tomorrow and wants to see me.  I’ve not responded yet… I’m still in that “uggghhhhhh” thought.

Anyway, I’m working from home this week and thought I’d have a few fun events to discuss… nope.  Still sitting at home, working. Not out and about hanging with good looking older men (which I loooovvveee).

So, I pose the question – how do you get the person you like to like you without being fake… or rediculous.. or a slut… or too available?  Hmmm… men, weigh in on this one, give us ladies good, useful tips….

2 thoughts on “The Ones You Want Are Aloof, The Ones You Don’t Want Are Available.

  1. Hereld Spain June 8, 2011 / 12:59 pm

    Paula I think you need to consult some classic works of English writing. I am not talking the Magna Carter of English common law but Jane Austin.

    You would seem to this reader that you have that age old delema. You have come as close to what you think is perfection and now all things are either out of reach or to be written of because you think they will not work. Yes recognising what you want can often times be worce than flying blind.

    Maybe a combo approach. If you see something you really like than let them know, without diving into a soft bed and if you see no spark then be blunt without being mean. Less dating for just datings sake and more because you have a goal in mind, a really enjoyable time with someone that makes bells go off.

    Jane swallowed not her own pride but Mr. Darcy’s. Someone is outthere just dont keep looking at your cribsheet all the time.

    be well H. S.


  2. Grey Goose, Dirty June 8, 2011 / 3:33 am

    Please let me know if you are ever able to figure this conundrum out. ‘Cause it’s annoying as hell! I’m sorry about the older guy. What’s weirder than him blowing you off is the fact that texted you from happy hour! Is he senile?

    Guys suck and yes, it will always be the one’s we’re not interested in because they’re the ones we don’t give a crap about and can be our naturally silly, sarcastic, snarky, snorting, carefree selves with instead of worrying about what they’re thinking of us. 😦

    (and thanks for thinking of me with the chicken lover) 😉


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